So, our words are like our intentions ...our inner thoughts ...what we plan to do and how we feed ourselves.
If we're speaking negative words to ourselves, or to the world around us, it's like feeding our body rotten food. If I won’t drink spoiled yogurt, or slimy lettuce, why will I feed my mind rancid or mean thoughts?
Saying, "I'm going to a pro-peace rally," sounds like a much better use of our time than going to an anti-anything rally.
So, my suggestion is to use words that will encourage the end game.
If you’re writing your own vows, your end game is to have a happy, healthy, ups and downs and middle out marriage. You’re spending the rest of your lives together! Of course you’re feeling positive! Now, let’s make it sound the way you feel!
I’m always happy to write your vows for you, for your final approval, or I can surprise you, if you like! However, if you want to write them yourself, I’m happy to help you out of offer some suggestions! Either way, spoken out loud or thought in our head, it makes sense to use words that are inspiring, are loving, are supportive and, most importantly, are always good to ourselves.